Have you heard of love languages?
I hadn't heard of them until I started working summer camp. At first it was a bit uncomfortable for me to think about because love is something that I have so many boundaries up with. But it gave me the opportunity to see what I am willing to give and what I like to take for myself. And over the years since I took my first quiz I have opened up to the other languages that I once wasn't too connected to.
There are 5 love languages:
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Giving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch
Lets take a look at each:
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Words of affirmation
This love language expresses love with words that build up your partner. Verbal compliments don’t have to be complicated; the shortest and simplest praises can be the most effective. Words mean a lot if your partner has this love language. Compliments and an “I love you” can go a long way. On the other hand, negative or insulting comments can hurt your partner and it could take them longer to forgive than others.
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Quality time
This love language is all about undivided attention. No televisions, no smartphones, or any other distractions. If this is your partner’s primary language, they don’t just want to be included during this period of time, they want to be the center of your attention. They want their partners to look at them and them only. This doesn’t mean that you don’t curl up on the couch to watch Netflix or HBO; it just means that you need to make sure to dedicate time together without all of the distractions. That will help them feel comforted in the relationship. Every time you cancel a date, postpone time together or aren’t present during your time together, it can be extremely hurtful to your partner as it can make them feel like you care more about other things or activities than them.
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Giving gifts
This love language isn’t necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or thoughtful gift makes your partner feel loved and appreciated. Something as simple as picking up a pint of their favorite ice cream after a long work week can make a huge impact. This is different than Acts of Service, where you show affection by performing actions to help your partner.
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Acts of service
Your partner might have this love language if their motto is “Actions speak louder than words.”
This love language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like. Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up a prescription are all acts of service. They require some thought, time, and effort. All of these things should be done with positivity and with your partner’s ultimate happiness in mind to be considered an expression of love. Actions out of obligation or with a negative tone are something else entirely.
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Physical touch
To people with this love language, nothing is more impactful than the physical touch of their partner. They aren’t necessarily into over-the-top PDA, but they do feel more connected and safe in a relationship by holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc. If Physical Touch is your partner’s primary love language, they will feel unloved without physical contact. All of the words and gifts in the world won’t change that. They want to feel you close by, not just emotionally, but physically.
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What do I give:
I offer all 5 of these love languages to people that I love and or my partner because I am all about full quality love and I want to make sure that my partner feels genuine love from all angles. I am usually someone that "gases" people, meaning that I am full of complements and pleasantries.
What do I look for:
I like to receive words of affirmation and quality time. I just want to know that you are there and that you got me the way that I got you.
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