Seeing that today is national sibling day, some fictionally created day that we use to celebrate our siblings and give them a little extra love on social media, why not go ahead and give my one and only brother a shout out.
I am often told of how when you were a little boy you asked for a little sister, so 1 year and 9 months later you were blessed with my presence but you were ready to send me back within a few months because all I like to do was cry. When you were that little boy you didn't realize the challenges of having a little sister and never thought of the struggles we would have, but we don't choose family so you were stuck with me.
I remember being little and irking your nerve with a quickness because I always wanted to follow you around and would tend to cry or go tattle tell if you would say no. But then again I was an easy come up because I was always willing to do your chores or take the blame when you would ask. Your friends loved me and didn't mind me tagging along, which made you not like me even more. When we hit middle school things changed and I understood the importance of you having your own time and space. And when we came back to Hayward it was always a mixture of both. It is here in the adult life where I feel like we have grasped the true understanding and love at having a sibling so close in age.
Life has dead ass been a struggle and you have been there for me, even if you left for years between we always find a way to come back together. We now know and look back at those years apart as time that we had to grown and develop alone. Its often hard for the world to understand the depth of our bond but as long as it makes sense to us we are good. You are often my best friend, my mentor, my child because mom makes sure I love and take care of you as a son along side her, my role model and often the reason for my headaches.
I will always remember and cherish the little things and I can't wait to see and live out all that is to come. Some of my lasting memories with you are::
-The time I chased that girl to school after punching her in the face because she was messing with you and your friends and you had my back when mom and dad wanted to ground me for a month
-The time in Mexico when you let Trey and I sit on your pack to get food at the drive thru because they wouldn't let us walk up to the window
-The mornings where we would walk to school with Jose
-When it would be 80 + degrees and you would make me wear your huge red jacket home because it wouldn't fit in your locker at football practice
-The time your head broke the toilet
-The times you, Lei and I would walk around blasting that purple radio
-The way you hugged me without saying anything when you found out that man touched me
-The time you took me and my friends to our senior prom because you missed your own
-The time I told you ole boy wanted to pimp me out and you jumped into defense mode and wanted to end his life
-That I shared my first jobs with you: Carson City Youth Council, Peer Advocates and Camillies Cafe
-When you dealt with the neighbor when you found out that he stalked me nightly and was making me the subject of his mental fantasies
-The way you embraced me when I was on bended knee shaking our fathers lifeless hand as I tried to wake him from death, and the way that you assured me that we had each other and we would be okay
I mean I could continue thinking back to memories all day, but let me not go into over kill. I love you Allen Bhaiya, happy national sibling day.
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